I came across this idea from the show Touch, which I dont watch anymore but I still think this idea is very interesting and relates to my "spirituality" that I try to make a part of my work. I can look back and sometimes understand now why certain people were brought into my life. Also, believing that people are meant to come in your life for a reason, believing in fate, gives me great comfort when I struggle with people and situations; I just hold onto the belief that I'm never in the wrong place at the wrong time, nothing is pointless, and every moment is exactly what it is meant to be. Allowing myself to let go of control and plans is so freeing and has helped me to have experiences and gain understanding about things that I never thought I would.
An obvious example of all of this is my husband; he's in the military and we met online. If we hadn't both joined an online dating service, would we have ever met? According to the Red String of Fate, somehow we would have but it seems almost impossible; he was stationed an hour from where I lived, I was in art school and he in the military and we both rarely went out. However, I do know that we were both at the St.Patty's day parade downtown the year we met and may have walked by each other for all we know. The second thing that was unexpected was me marrying a military man. I grew up new DC and saw so many friends move away, couples get divorced, and Dads disappear for long periods of time. Suffice to say, I was determined to stay away from that life. I only started going on dates with military guys from the online dating service because I lived near two bases and they were some of the best options on the site (I obviously was not looking for anything serious). Then I met Kevin and the rest was history; it didn't feel like I had a choice but to become a part of that world because that's what marrying him meant and not marrying him was out of the question if I wanted to be at all happy. So I let go of my fear and preconceived notions and found a freedom in the lack of control and set plans. Life has always had a way of making face what I fear the most.